tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-110789165301402865.post3003671771120630158..comments2009-10-31T06:54:29.271-04:00Administratornoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-110789165301402865.post-31578710254475427192009-10-31T06:54:29.271-04:002009-10-31T06:54:29.271-04:00(of course i didn&#39;t watch the video.)vlorbikhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02746118913980983815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-110789165301402865.post-49488493609217354342009-10-31T06:53:19.150-04:002009-10-31T06:53:19.150-04:00The subject is not as simple as most would have us believe... usually one side or the other feels far too dogmatically about their own perspective to make any dialogue really possible. <br /><br />between *sides*. for sure.<br />not between individuals.<br />trouble is, people feel like<br />they have to represent their side.<br />so you&#39;ve got to change the subject<br />*back* to whatever the *real* subject<br />might happen to be: your interlocutor<br />probably feels pretty strongly<br />about something in their own life...<br />something they *can&#39;t* effectively<br />speak of with what they take<br />for the technical language<br />of soul-matters (because the<br />words mean too many things<br />and hence mean nothing <br />unless wielded by experts).<br />get *away* from &quot;big picture&quot; stuff<br />and make it *personal*; use<br />*ordinary* language in ordinary ways.<br />seek common ground and ye shall find.vlorbikhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02746118913980983815noreply@blogger.com